What are the most important leadership characteristics? Leadership is defined in the english dictionary as a person who rules, guides, or inspires others. What qualities stand out most when observing someone who is a successful leader? For this article we will touch heavily on personal confidence, the characteristic that challenges most people. Despite their outward appearance most people question their own abilities and decisions all the time. Even top performers doubt themselves on a daily basis.
Confidence has to be one of the most important leadership characteristics there is. Now I didn't say cocky alpha males, I said confidence! With out confidence who ever you are leading will not follow you for long. If they're required to follow you due to your employment position they may have to do as you say but they surely don't have to respect you. You see, you must first be confident in yourself before you become confident in what ever area you are leading in. If you are comfortable in your own skin, it won't matter if you are the new boss that doesn't fully understand the policies in place yet. You will feel just fine kindly and confidently asking the advice of others instead of trying to fake it. In fact, your subordinates will respect the fact that you are humble enough to ask them. If you are comfortable with your own abilities in general, all the other leadership characteristics will come naturally. If you have challenges with this characteristic there is help.
Thats right, even if your fellow employees, subordinates, bosses, friends and family disrespect you on a daily basis there are some things you can do in your every day activity to help re establish your self. First and most importantly change the inner voice in your head. If you are the type that sees two people talking in the hallway and the little voice in your head tells you that they are talking bad about you change the voice inside your head. Now you have to trust me on this. The next time you catch yourself thinking something like, oh no my employees are laughing and looking at me, I want you to stop your self.
As soon as you stop yourself replace your thoughts with words that empower you instead. My employees love me, I have all the characteristics of a great leader. My family loves and respects me to no end. My friends think I'm cool no matter what I do. I am a confident and powerful individual. By the way, you need to say these statements even if you don't believe what your mouth is saying. If you have watched my DVD on confidence you will understand how this works. For now you just have to trust me. Do this just a few times and you will notice a change in the attitudes of the people around you ultimately helping you to become more confident in what ever area you are leading in. Build on the leadership characteristic of confidence and all other things will fall in to place. When you are looking to improve confidence and building self confidence in others stay tuned for more articles like these or visit my website at www.themaxgarcia.com
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Sunday, June 7, 2009
When angry dont
Hi everyone, welcome to my blog of best kept secrets. You may have heard my recent pod cast called "when angry don't". http://bestkeptsecrets.blip.tv/file/2211956/
Negative things happen every day. The second you learn to take control over yourself when these things happen, the second you control your life. We all get the pleasure of experiencing a computer that is being stubborn, a person who dares to cut us off on the freeway, a spilled drink, a dropped cell phone and the lovely fax machine just to name a few.
The question you need to ask yourself when these things happen before you get angry and lose your cool is.... Do I really want this to happen more often? If you like these situations then go ahead and curse, use God's name in vain, throw things, put up the middle finger ect because you will surely get more of that. If you are really lucky you will get a chain of bad events right away.
The opposite is true though if you just continue like nothing ever happened.
This does take discipline and practice but pays off many times over. If I am stuck in traffic or get a flat tire I will automatically assume that God has made this happen for me so that I will not be in an accident up ahead. Notice I said for me. You must have the attitude of thanks that everything happens for you, not to you.
You are in complete control of where you are now and where you go from here. I will explain more of this in my future blogs and pod cast. In the meant time. Have a blessed day.
Max Garcia
Negative things happen every day. The second you learn to take control over yourself when these things happen, the second you control your life. We all get the pleasure of experiencing a computer that is being stubborn, a person who dares to cut us off on the freeway, a spilled drink, a dropped cell phone and the lovely fax machine just to name a few.
The question you need to ask yourself when these things happen before you get angry and lose your cool is.... Do I really want this to happen more often? If you like these situations then go ahead and curse, use God's name in vain, throw things, put up the middle finger ect because you will surely get more of that. If you are really lucky you will get a chain of bad events right away.
The opposite is true though if you just continue like nothing ever happened.
This does take discipline and practice but pays off many times over. If I am stuck in traffic or get a flat tire I will automatically assume that God has made this happen for me so that I will not be in an accident up ahead. Notice I said for me. You must have the attitude of thanks that everything happens for you, not to you.
You are in complete control of where you are now and where you go from here. I will explain more of this in my future blogs and pod cast. In the meant time. Have a blessed day.
Max Garcia
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