Talk To Yourself by Max Garcia

You can talk yourself in to building self confidence. I know this seems pretty far out there and I just jumped right in to it on purpose. When it comes to personal confidence most of us become our own wost enemy. Rather than speaking and thinking the right things we are too busy thinking about the last time something didn't go right. Thinking about these things shapes our universe and our brain in to the wrong direction. Most of us are saying things like I hope my "date doesn't think I'm a geek", "I hope the boss doesn't hate me", "I don't think my co worker likes me", "I hope I don't fail the test". Saying things like this will surely not improve confidence. Even though you want the opposite to become true your brain and the universe do not know that. All your brain heres is "fail the test, I'm a geek, boss hate me". The same way your brain hears or heres as I wrote in the last paragraph.

If you want to improve confidence you must speak what you want to happen. Not sure where he got it from but Anthony Robbins said in one of his teachings "speak that which you wish to become true". This is great advice when it comes to building self confidence for any situation. When ever the big boss is coming to my company for the day the night before I build my personal confidence by saying things like "my boss loves me, John Smith loves what I have done with the company". "I can only do right in my bosses eyes". I actually say this several days before the big boss arrives. This greatly helps my personal confidence because saying those things causes my brain to lead me to do the things that will make my boss love me and my company. I also improve confidence in the rest of the company. When I tell them the big boss is coming I don't act in a panic, I tell them that it's no big deal because the big boss loves us and we are doing business the right way anyhow. If you are serious about building self confidence and want to eliminate all your fears be sure to contact me and ask about one of my personal coaching programs http://www.themaxgarcia.com/. Have a blessed day.

Louder is Better by Max Garcia

Now before you look at this title and think to yourself, "I cant stand loud annoying people", stay with me for a minute here. For those people looking to desperately improve confidence, talking a little louder is the way to go. We have all heard people talk who clearly have no personal confidence what so ever. We hear them talk in such a wimpy voice that the other person has to struggle to hear them. What usually happens to those people in any situation?

That's right, they get eaten alive. People walk all over them knowing that if they can't even speak up enough in general conversation they will surely not be able to speak up for themselves during confrontation. This especially happens at work or school. If you are in the process of building self confidence pay attention to yourself the next time you do something as simple as giving your order for dinner or calling about a bill dispute. You will notice if you are a little louder people will generally give you more respect thinking that you have personal confidence.

Once again, I am not saying be one of those people that are annoying to call over the phone with their loud heeello or YEA! That will not serve you in business or any capacity. Just loud enough and clear enough that there is no doubt what you are saying or who you are saying it to. I tell my students that have a hard time with this to at least make an attempt to be more firm with their voice. Now ladies I don't mean a man voice just a firm one. Do this and you will improve confidence instantly for any situation.

Building self confidence is the seed for all your successes. When you have personal confidence, you will naturally get more dates, make more money, and live a happier life. Very seldom do ladies go for the shy guy standing in the corner talking to themselves. Ladies that improve confidence will turn more heads by the way they walk, dance, speak, stand ect. If you are like most people and still building self confidence check out my DVD called have confidence at www.themaxgarcia.com. Have a blessed day!

Know They are More Scared than You by Max Garcia

I recently attended a celebration of the Marine Corps Birthday. Somehow during conversation the subject of personal confidence and people approaching strangers came up. Oh, I remember now...I had a couple VIPs as my guest and at first only a few people approached and asked us for pictures. The VIPs and my wife were wondering why? I instantly said people were still building self confidence with a couple drinks to walk over. I told the VIPs and my wife that they were intimidating to the personal confidence of others. Of course I got the crazy look. So I went on to explain that despite the appearance of most people, they severely need to improve confidence. For most people this comes from previous programming. Everyone has things happen during their lifetime (usually childhood) that wound their personal confidence. The sad part is that people neglect to improve confidence despite their major accomplishments in life. I told the VIPs that people were in the process of debating and building self confidence in their own minds and that we should probably break up our little circle and move around to make us more approachable.


Most people will not feel comfortable approaching a group of due to the fear of being rejected and or humiliated, especially alone. If a guy walks past a group of girls and hears a few of them laugh what is the first thing that goes through the guy's mind? You guessed it! ARE THEY LAUGHING AT ME??? Folks, if this is you start building self confidence today! Do what ever you need to improve confidence. I have lots of free things on my web site www.themaxgarcia.com to help you get started.

Higher Self Esteem Through Better Posture by Max Garcia

It probably has never occurred to you that you could improve confidence through your body posture. When building self confidence just making some simple body changes will create dramatic results. Most people want to improve confidence but most people don't actually take action to do so.

When trying to improve confidence instantly on the spot (say on a date, job interview ect) follow these rules for your body. First do not play with your feet by rubbing your shoes on the ground, lightly kicking something or anything similar (no cracking knuckles, tapping fist in to your palm ect). These will only hurt personal confidence despite what ever you think about biting your nails ect. Those things may have helped your personal confidence as a kid because someone else did it but you are well past that now.

Instead, when building self confidence practice planting both feet shoulder width apart equal weight on each leg. You want to be as tall as possible. Raise your chin to the point where you are almost looking at the ceiling. Smile as often as possible, smile like you know something great that no one else knows. This will telegraph to others that you have something great going on in your life and you will naturally improve personal confidence. Make it a point to stop dragging your arms along and instead exaggerate swinging your arms in a powerful manner. This will make you look and feel unstoppable.

Remember, building self confidence is easy for anyone if you just know what to do. Like I said, most people want to improve confidence but most do nothing. I'll give it to you straight, no salt or lemon. If you are really serious about feeling better about yourself take a leap of faith and purchase my download called "have confidence" at http://www.themaxgarcia.com/ . It has many tactics that you can start using today. Or you can just continue down the same path you have been on since childhood. The choice is yours.

Confidence Through Gratitude

Gratitude is the quickest way to anything you want in life. Personal confidence is no exception to the rule. When you feel the butterflies in your stomach and you want to improve confidence because you are about to give a presentation, go on a date, ask for a date, ect., start by saying thank you to your God for giving you powerful personal confidence. Give thanks to the universe or what ever works for you, just say thank you while you are building self confidence for any occasion.

You may start by being grateful and giving thanks for how much you have been able to improve confidence from your past, acknowledging you have come a long way. Then directly after that say thanks for what ever you are about to need personal confidence for ("thank you, thank you for building self confidence in me so I can deliver a presentation that improves lives", "I am so happy and grateful for my ability to improve confidence and rise to the occasion"). Regardless of how the presentation, date, test, ect. goes ensure you express gratitude, this will put in motion your success at what ever is next while bringing more good your way.

These are just a few examples of what you can do when building self confidence. For more ways to instantly improve your confidence in a big way check out my web site at www.themaxgarcia.com

Affirmations for Self Esteem by Max Garcia

Once again I always get so much feed back when I teach affirmations I will give you a couple for building self confidence. Many people want to improve confidence but those same people go around saying things like I'm shy, I feel embarrassed to call him or her. Personal confidence starts in the mind and is re enforced by the words that come out of your mouth. For example, when building self confidence to start a new job or anything that requires meeting new people, or before a party you might say an affirmation like "People love me, people are interested in every word I say, I am a people magnet". Say that a few times when you are wanting to get a date at the party and see what happens to your personal confidence once you actually start speaking to people. Something will come over you like magic.

As always, when trying to improve confidence don't question the affirmation you are saying, as long as you say it with out judgement your subconscious mind will act on it regardless if you want it to or not. That is why it is so wrong for us to say things like I am shy, I feel stupid ect (forget you even read those words). Building self confidence is something that so many people defeat themselves in before they even get started.

You can get as creative as you want with affirmations to improve confidence. By now, if you are thinking you want some affirmations to listen to for a bigger effect along with some other solutions for personal confidence check out my new DVD called have confidence http://www.themaxgarcia.com/DVD.html